For most couples in Mississippi, the decision to divorce almost never comes as a surprise. In many cases, there are signs leading up to one or both party’s decisions, including fighting, infidelity, lack of intimacy and dispassion. In rare instances does the request for divorce come out of the blue. Regardless of your particular circumstances, you may wonder, is there a right way to ask your spouse for a divorce?

While there is no “right” way to ask for a divorce, there are ways you can help to make the uncomfortable conversation go as smoothly as possible. First and foremost, HuffPost recommends that you enter the conversation prepared. Understand where your spouse is at emotionally. Is she blissfully unaware of your feelings? Is he just as unhappy as you are? Have you two discussed the possibility of divorce in the past? Being aware of your spouse’s feelings can help you prepare for his or her reaction and plan accordingly.

The publication also recommends that you choose the right time and place. The conversation should never coincide with another major event in your or your spouse’s lives. For instance, birthdays, holidays, anniversaries and major milestones should be off-limits.

In addition to timing it right, you should also give thoughtful consideration to the atmosphere in which you bring up divorce. If you have children, ask a friend or family member to watch them for the evening so that the conversation can occur without interruption. Choose a place in which you and your spouse can talk after you make the announcement. Do not choose a public place, as you do not know how your spouse will react, and it is unfair of you to put him or her in the position to make a public scene.

Finally, be gentle but firm. If divorce is really what you want, approach the discussion in an as calm a manner as possible. If you enter the conversation angry or frustrated, your spouse will develop a similar attitude. Nothing good will come from your conversation if you are both impassioned while it takes place. Instead, remain calm, be careful in your selection of words and, above all, remain firm in your decision. Let your spouse know you have given a lot of thought to your decision, you have made up your mind and nothing will change it.

You should not use this article as legal advice. It is for informational purposes only.